Strict parenting deprives kids of the opportunity to internalize self-discipline and responsibility. Harsh limits may temporarily control behavior, but they don’t help a child learn to self-regulate. Instead, harsh limits trigger a resistance to taking responsibility for themselves.

Strict parenting can turn children into adept liars as they do not feel safe telling the truth, experts have claimed. Psychotherapist Philippa Perry said a child should not be solely to blame for lying, but that the parenting style could have a big impact on their ability and readiness to fib.

You want to be firm with your child, but you don’t want to be unreasonable either, which is what strict parents often are. When taken to the extreme, being too strict can lead to negative long-term effects for your child, including the encouragement of certain harmful behaviors like smoking and drinking alcohol.

Research shows that most people think strict parenting produces better-behaved kids. However, research studies on discipline consistently show that strict, or authoritarian, child-raising actually produces kids with lower self esteem who behave worse than other kids — and therefore get punished more!

Previous research on western cultures has found that when parents exert strong psychological control over their children, it leads to problem behaviour, low self-esteem and low grades among the children. …

But you might notice these key signs:

1. You often feel tricked or pressured into doing things.
2. It seems as if you can’t do anything right.
3. It no longer seems possible to say no.
4. They often twist the truth.
5. You often feel guilty or confused.
6. Your efforts never seem good enough.

Here are some tips to help you deal with a controlling mother:

1. Don’t always cast yourself as the victim. This can make your mother feel defensive and cause more conflict.
2. Take responsibility for your own happiness.
3. Let some differences slide.
4. Be willing to compromise.

The causes of lifelong anger that some hold against a parent could be due to any of the following: Physical or emotional neglect from parents. They may not be intentionally abusive but were affected by their own vulnerabilities or limited emotional capacity. Physical, mental, or sexual abuse.

One particular parenting behavior, parental control, has received the most attention (and empirical evidence) and has been shown to be associated with higher levels of anxiety in children [2, 10, 11].

They did find, however, that teenagers with parents who had social phobia, depression, or other anxiety disorders or who abused alcohol, as well as those with parents who were overprotective or rejected them, were at a significantly increased risk of developing social phobia.

Children who have controlling parents are at a higher risk for certain mental health problems. 6 Depression and anxiety can result when parents demand obedience and children don’t have the freedom to express themselves.