Let’s look at some of the possible reasons you have an overly touchy feely child: Physical touch love language. Quality time love language. Extroversion.

Pros and cons of authoritative parenting

• Rate higher on mental health scores. According to research published in 2012, children raised by authoritative parents have higher levels of self-esteem and quality of life than those raised by authoritarian or permissive parents.
• Are healthier.

You can’t tell your child that you love them too much and telling them this or showing them doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover. These things, however, do not mean love any more than something like codependency in an adult relationship. …

How to Deal with an Overly Affectionate Child

1. Model good personal boundaries as well as physical boundaries with partners, friends, and other family members.
2. Don’t react to boundary violations with anger.
3. Remind children that it’s important to ask before hugging and kissing anyone, that it’s about respect.

Of course, as soon as your kids pull away or show that they are not comfortable kissing you on the lips, don’t kiss them on the lips anymore, like with the shower story. And if they try to open mouth kiss you, unless they are nine months old and super adorable, don’t let them.

Rinaldi adds: “Toddlers are generally great at giving and receiving affection. They’re also at a stage when they are imitating things they see at home or in other places—like on TV. They’re learning about how people show love to other people.”

Sometimes children don’t want physical affection because they’re not in the mood, and other times it could be a specific person they don’t want to cuddle. It could just be one of those things, there’s no reason why but your child just doesn’t want to give them a kiss goodbye.

Research over the past decade highlights the link between affection in childhood and health and happiness in the future. On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and anti-social.

“Physical touch should never be coercive,” said Dr. Deborah Gilboa, a parenting expert and TODAY Tastemaker. “It is super confusing to send kids the mixed messages of body privacy and body safety and then force them to do something intimate with their bodies.”

“Not being cuddly might just be a quirk of the child, everyone knows someone who doesn’t like to hug. But it could be a symptom of another condition,” he says. “If a lack of affection and interaction doesn’t improve or change over time the child might need to be assessed.

If the child starts crying as soon as you kiss or hug your partner, it’s definitely a sign that your kid wants more attention. Near to your kid, you are devaluing your kid by valuing your spouse. Even in such a small act, he’d start feeling abandoned which would make him upset.

Guidance from a mental-health professional can also be very helpful.

1. Teach Your Child About Feelings.
2. Create an Anger Thermometer.
3. Develop a Calm-Down Plan.
4. Teach Anger Management Techniques.
5. Avoid Giving In to Tantrums.
6. Follow Through With Consequences.
7. Avoid Violent Media.
8. A Word From Verywell.