But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own. Comparisons often result in resentment. Resentment towards others and towards ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy.

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Considerable research also has examined the effects of downward social comparisons. They have been shown to increase positive affect, decrease negative affect, heighten optimism about the future, increase relationship satisfaction, and enhance self-esteem.

No matter how well you’re doing, comparing yourself to other people takes your eyes off your goals. And it can cause you to feel bad about how you’re doing–because there will always be someone who looks happier, wealthier, healthier, and more successful.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others. – Philippians 2:2-4 NIV. What is comparison but feeding our selfish ambition and conceit?

Here are some things I learned to do instead of comparing myself to others.

1. Compliment them. Most of the time, when you are jealous or comparing yourself to others, it’s because you think they have something you don’t.
2. Believe in yourself.
3. Embrace your journey.
4. Find your awesome.
5. Feel the fear.
6. Live in alignment.

Here are thirteen simple ways to stop comparing yourself to others:

1. Water your own grass.
2. Accept where you are.
3. Love your past.
4. Do a social media detox.
5. Know that this isn’t the end of the movie.
6. Be grateful for what you have.
7. Decide not to let fear guide your choices.
8. Realize that you’re not perfect.