Narcissists prefer romantic partners that are physically attractive and high status, and are less concerned with how warm or caring those partners are. Their tendency to view partners as trophies to show off, rather than as companions with whom to build a relationship, may explain their lack of commitment.

It is their only motivation. They aren’t interested in you as a person or doing anything for you without some sort of payment. An exclusive commitment, caring, and intimacy that most people seek in a relationship are considered drawbacks to a narcissist, who likes to keep options open.

It’s certainly possible to have a relationship with a narcissist, but it’s going to be emotionally and psychologically exhausting. Narcissists drain all the life and spirit from their partner, using them as an emotional — and sometimes literal — punching bag.

Summary and Conclusions. Highly narcissistic people hate seeing others being happy. Its because they themselves are unable to feel genuine happiness. They will use numerous mind-bending delusions and justifications to explain why your happiness is, in so many words, an act of aggression against them.

A Psychologist Explains Why It’s Not a Great Idea to Call Out a Narcissist. “Not only is it not going to change anything, it’s probably going to make things worse,” says Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Unfortunately, a narcissist isn’t just waiting for you to get their number in order to then change their behavior.

Narcissists can wear you down with several apologies. If you don’t accept the narcissist’s apology, they’ll keep on apologizing until you finally give in and take it. A narcissist would rather keep on apologizing than change their behavior or find out what it is which would make you forgive them.

Here are 10 “don’ts” for dealing with narcissists:

• Don’t give them ammunition.
• Don’t take them at face value.
• Don’t try to justify or explain yourself.
• Don’t minimize their outrageous behavior.
• Don’t expect them to own their part.
• Don’t try to beat them at their own game.
• Don’t expect loyalty.

Narcissists don’t learn from their mistakes because they don’t think they make any, study shows. BEND, Ore. — When most people find that their actions have resulted in an undesirable outcome, they tend to rethink their decisions and ask, “What should I have done differently to avoid this outcome?”