Judging and Perceiving are preferences used in the Jungian Type Inventory. The naming is unfortunately a bit archaic as judging is more than evaluation and perceiving is not about looking at thing. They are about how we approach life: in a structured way or an open, flexible way.

Judging and Perceiving preferences, within the context of personality types, refers to our attitude towards the external world, and how we live our lives on a day-to-day basis. The Perceiving preference wants things to be flexible and spontaneous. Judgers want things settled, Perceivers want thing open-ended.

Judging (J) and Perceiving (P) are how you interact with the world outside yourself, either in a structured or flexible manner. Judging and Perceiving are opposite preferences. A person’s natural tendency toward one will be stronger than the other.

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator instrument is a questionnaire designed to make psychological types understandable and useful in our everyday lives. MBTI results identify valuable differences between people – differences that can be the source of misunderstanding and miscommunication.

They both have an inferior mental process called Extraverted Sensing, or “Se” for short. This means that they both tend to process information in a similar way, and they both tend to get stressed and annoyed by similar things. These processes work together to give INJs an intense, focused demeanor.

INFJs can be very intense individuals when they are angry and are capable of truly making others regret their betrayal. Most likely the INFJ will retreat and cut off contact from this person. They will attempt to remove themselves from the hurt and will probably take time to mourn the loss of that relationship.

INFJs are guarded in expressing their feelings, especially to new people, and so tend to establish close relationships slowly.

INFJs actually do become very upset if their loved ones ignore them for a long time. They can be patient people, since they understand that everyone has responsibilities and life can be exhausting sometimes. The INFJ will likely start to feel bad about themselves, and might even take on the blame.

INFJs typically have trust issues because at some point, they’ve placed their trust in someone and have had that trust broken. This doesn’t just make them feel vulnerable. When an INFJ is hurt, they have a habit of beating themselves up for not predicting the poor behavior in the first place.

I’m part of a group of rare individuals called INFJs. INFJs often experience a unique kind of loneliness, because we want deep connections with others but we also need plenty of alone time.

Perhaps the most sensitive of all the personality types, INFJs take it hard when someone they trust lets them down. They tend to hold on to anger longer than they should and are capable of holding a grudge even when the other person has apologized, repeatedly, for their wrongdoing.

It is important for the INFJ to push aside this natural desire to neglect their own emotions after a break-up, instead they need to focus on dealing with those feelings so that they can properly move on and really heal. Since the INFJ has a tendency to neglect their feelings they do sometimes find it hard to let go.

It hurts more than anyone could know. When someone has hurt an INFJ, this is where the door slam kicks in.. slowly cutting off connection from the person, and withdrawing, without the person even realizing that he/she has hurt them. Betrayal, or breaking of trust.

INFJs tend to be very frugal and thrifty. We enjoy helping others but not so good at receiving help. We make sure that we have enough money so that we don’t have to ask others for help financially. Also, as we are Judging types, most of us have some kind of structure or budget in place to manage our money.

An INFJ who’s not sure what kind of relationship they want, or who suspects they’ll never find the relationship they need, might settle for a bad relationship or they might avoid relationships entirely. Worse-case scenario, INFJs can end up in unhealthy, manipulative, and even abusive relationships.

INFJs are so concerned about the feelings of others that we often hold ourselves back. We can be reluctant to open up or make the first move in a relationship because we’re not sure if the other person really wants to listen to us or really cares about the issues and ideas that are so precious to us.

It means that the INFJ, despite their evident inconsistencies, is completely and entirely thorough. So having said all of that, whenever an INFJ breaks up with someone it is so hard on them because they are being forced to stop what they didn’t get to accomplish. They are being forced to give up on a passion of theirs.

It’s just a lonely feeling to understand so many people and so many things yet have it so hard to get even one person to understand us. Most of the time an INFJ doesn’t mind being there for everyone and normally we don’t even want to burden anyone with our problems.

Here are 7 things you should definitely avoid saying to an INFJ.

• “Calm down!”
• “You’re just not trying hard enough.”
• “I’m fine.” — when you know you aren’t.
• “No one will ever understand you.”
• “You’re doing too much.”
• “You make it difficult to love you.”
• “You’re so boring.

INFJs are unique because they’re the most extroverted-introvert. They may be a loner and tend to be very quite and expressionless. But once they’re in contact with someone, they turn out into an extrovert. INFJs are unique because they’re the most extroverted-introvert.

INFJs don’t like crowds and they usually prefer to have a handful of close friends at most. But those friendships can be incredibly intense, because when an INFJ trusts someone they’re often willing to share almost all of their heart and minds with those people.

INFJs want to be in friendships with people who trust that the INFJ isn’t going to hurt them. We try to understand and accept our friends the way that we want to be understood and accepted. We’ll be genuine with them, work to build deeper connections, and commit to the friendship.

All INFJs have had a toxic friendship at some point in their life. It’s kinda like an unwritten rule that we must go through this unpleasant experience to find the people who will accept us just as we accept them. But for INFJs who are also HSP empaths, toxic friendships cause more trouble than they do for most people.

INFJs are extremely reliable people, especially when it comes to the ones they love the most. They will always be there to support and love those closest to them, and simply want to make them happy. INFJs can get caught up in their own heads sometimes, which can cause them to become a bit distracted.

When an INFJ is hurt, they shut down. Most INFJ’s have a small group of people they love being around and talking to. If you are one of those people, and the person shuts you out, they are hurt. It is hard enough for them not to speak to you, but they do it to protect themselves.

INFJ. INFJs see most things in a bit of a grey area, rather than just a clear black and white. They don’t like doing anything that feels wrong to them, but sometimes they believe in bending the rules a bit if it seems like the right choice.

On the surface, yes, INFJs are easy-going, hardly rubbing against anyone they deal with. But, deep inside, they are easily shattered at the sight of unpleasant events of every level. When you deal with an INFJ, you will feel at ease with too-comfortable-a-feeling, raising the chance of offending him/her.