Throwing a colleague or employee under the bus is one of the best ways to destroy a team’s resilience. By doing so, you demonstrate a lack of consideration by sacrificing a loyal teammate for a temporary and often minor advantage.

AMMON SHEA: We define throw someone under the bus as to criticize, blame or punish, usually, someone in a vulnerable position, and it’s especially in order to avoid blame or to gain an advantage.

Here are 5 ways to cope when you have been thrown under the bus:

1. Climb out from under the bus. Then dust yourself off and try to figure out what the issue is really about.
2. Speak calmly and clearly. Or write.
3. Offer a solution.
4. Take personal responsibility if necessary.
5. Move on.

The origins of throw someone under the bus have been attributed to minor league baseball, Cyndi Lauper, the slang of used car salesmen, and various other improbable sources. The earliest written record we have of under the bus being used in this fashion comes in 1980, in reference to a British politician.

How to Avoid Throwing Your Colleagues Under the Bus

1. Know Your “Throw” Triggers. Often people throw someone under the bus and then quickly regret it.
2. Build Relationships.
3. Share The Risks.
4. Clarify Roles and Responsibilities.
5. Admit Your Mistakes.
6. Maintain High Resilience.

“To throw (someone) under the bus” is an idiomatic phrase in English meaning to betray a friend or ally for selfish reasons. It is typically used to describe a disavowal and possibly severance of a previously amicable or warm relationship.

Cause someone to be confused or perplexed, disconcert someone, as in We didn’t let our worries throw us, or That unfavorable review threw her.

They call it “getting thrown under the bus” for a reason—because it means you get sacrificed to save someone else’s reputation in front of people who matter. Unfortunately, this is all too common in the workplace, despite everyone being on the same team.

informal. : to offer (someone) something that is not very important or valuable especially to stop complaints or protests The boss would not let his workers out early for the holiday but threw them a bone by buying lunch.

: a magic spell, hex, or charm broadly : magical power works his mojo on the tennis court The team has lost its mojo.

However, the term osteomancy might be more appropriate, referring to divination using bones. Many archaeological sites along the south coast and offlying islands of the Korean peninsula show that deer and pig scapulae were used in divination during the Korean Protohistoric Period, c. 300 BC – AD 300/400.

to accept an unpleasant fact or situation after dealing with it for a while: They’re upset that you didn’t call, but they’ll get over it.

Making out is a term of American origin dating back to at least 1949, and is used to refer to kissing, including extended French kissing or heavy kissing of the neck (called necking), or to acts of non-penetrative sex such as heavy petting.

The term “going the extra mile” is a very old expression. It describes individuals who provide great customer service whether it’s over the phone, in person or via email. It comes down to basically doing more than is expected, trying a little harder and going above the norm.

In an increasingly competitive world, employers are always looking for ways to get more from their staff. Typically, this involves encouraging employees to knuckle down and “go the extra mile” in an effort to improve the overall performance of their organisation.

How To Go The Extra Mile And Succeed At Work

1. Look out for additional tasks. Always be on the lookout for more work, or additional tasks.
2. Volunteer your strengths. Be aware of what is going on around you day-to-day.
3. Talk to people. Talk to as many people as possible in the office – even those outside of your department.
4. Ask questions.
5. Be willing.

How to encourage your employees to go the extra mile

1. Express your gratitude publicly. Whether it’s a shoutout in a team meeting or a social media post, expressing your gratitude publicly builds loyalty and employee engagement.
2. Treat your employees regularly.
3. Listen to employee feedback.
4. Bring employees on the journey.

In the King James Version of the Bible the text reads: And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. Whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.

The Shang people used oracle bones to communicate with ancestors and deities, who were believed to have the power to bestow fortune, disasters and guidance on the living world. At the royal court, the oracle bones divination was carried out by trusted ‘diviners’ or by the king and other members of the royal family.

How do you tell if someone is sabotaging you?

1. They make you jump through hoops others don’t have to.
2. They talk about you behind your back.
3. They tell lies to your boss or your colleagues about your work.
4. They steal your ideas or try to take credit for your work.

How do we handle the two-faced foe?

1. Maintain integrity. Never return the favor, as it will only make you look bad.
2. Politely confront the situation.
3. Maintain your distance.
4. Always be alert/aware.
5. Create and maintain a strong business network.
6. Never underestimate others.
7. Don’t let it get you down.

Here are 16 signs that a colleague is undermining you at work:

1. They’re more than just competitive.
2. They put you on the defensive.
3. You’re not alone.
4. They gossip — a lot.
5. They try to distract you.
6. They leave you out.
7. They spread rumors about you.
8. They take credit for your work.

Often these terms are regarded as interchangeable and for some bullying is a form of harassment. Bullying is undermining and destructive whereas effective supervision is developmental and supportive. The latter may well include negative but constructive feedback.

Here’s how to go about it.

1. Look for the Signs. Before anything, make sure you’re actually dealing with social undermining.
2. Identify the Motive.
3. Be Upfront.
4. Stop Giving Them Information.
5. Change the Relationship.
6. Take What You Can From It.
7. Find Support.

How to Deal with Someone Who is Trying to Discredit You

1. Ignore what they say and do.
2. Don’t talk to others who are close to them.
3. As hard as it may be to do this, be the bigger person, especially when others are watching.
4. Don’t let them know what your triggers are.
5. Un-friend them completely if possible.
6. Make allies.

They turn the story around to make it seem like you are at fault, deflecting attention and blame away from them to make you feel guilty. This type of emotional manipulation is called gaslighting. Gaslighting can come from a romantic partner, a boss, a friend, or anyone else.

10 Signs Your Boss Wants You to Quit

1. You don’t get new, different or challenging assignments anymore.
2. You don’t receive support for your professional growth.
3. Your boss avoids you.
4. Your daily tasks are micromanaged.
5. You’re excluded from meetings and conversations.
6. Your benefits or job title changed.

High-performing employees can get away with bad behavior because employers often believe their production outweighs their wrongdoings. The more valuable your work is to your employer, the more your boss and co-workers are likely to overlook questionable behavior, according to a study from 2016.

Recognizing the Symptoms of a Toxic Employee

• A general negative attitude: Unhappy employees exude negativity, and many times you can’t correct the situation to make them happy.
• Unwillingness to take responsibility: This often reveals itself in backstabbing and blaming others.
• Gossip.
• Sabotage and insubordination.

Top 10 Signs You are a Bad Employee

• You’re never on time.
• You find yourself frequently excusing your actions.
• You aren’t willing to handle unexpected assignments.
• You are frequently gossiping.
• You believe you’re the smartest person in the workplace, or don’t respect your coworkers.