It’s easy to create expectations. Whenever there is an opportunity to create an ideal outcome, that is what we do. These expectations will impact our thoughts, emotions, actions and beliefs. When we dread or feel excited about something, we create expectations that match our thoughts and emotions.

In psychology, latent learning refers to knowledge that only becomes clear when a person has an incentive to display it. For example, a child might learn how to complete a math problem in class, but this learning is not immediately apparent.

This is particularly important in the context of learning, because how well we expect to perform, or how well teachers expect their students to perform, can influence the outcome. In general, high expectations improve performance, whereas low expectations seem to undermine achievement.

Setting goals (or expectations) motivates us, excites us, and makes us want to push ourselves to grow. Managing expectations is not always going to be easy, since there are good and bad sides to having them. We should always remember that certain things might be in our control, while many might not.

Expectations come from two sources, communications and experience. Communications: These are the messages we see, hear or read about something. If we were going out to a new trendy restaurant, we would very likely be somewhat influenced by advertising we had seen, reviews in the media, recommendations of friends, etc.

Again, EXPECTATIONS HURT! So, where do we go wrong? Whenever we set expectations it is either too high, or too low. Expectations urge you to be a better person; it constantly keeps a person motivated to achieve his/her goals.

It’s time to do away with expectations. This will allow us to experience less anxiety, less stress, frustration, anger, depression, and other negative emotions. We can expect things like respect from others, but if we base how we feel on whether we get what we expect, we set ourselves up for disappointment.

However, if we want to behave well, it’s better we do it because we like to do it and not because we expect to receive something in return. Sometimes, having expectations of others means holding them responsible for our happiness. We condition our happiness to their behaviour, so we become dependent on their reactions.

Expecting things from life means you have to live in the future and lose your present because of your past’s thirst for the unknown. Life is not something to expect something from, sometimes it will just throw at you the least expected thing and you will somehow need to adjust yourself to it.

Having no expectations doesn’t mean you have no standards. You may not have any control over the outcome of your work. You don’t expect hard work would guarantee success. But you can still show up daily and do your work because it’s part of your standard. Process goals are about standards and boundaries.

10 Rules to Live By for Those Who Want to Live a Positive Life

• Be comfortable in your own skin.
• Appreciate what you have and never compare yourself with others.
• See the positive in every situation.
• Let go of your need to control.
• Drop the resentment within.
• Live in the moment.
• Avoid overanalyzing.

Well the answer always is expect nothing from life bacuse not everything we expect is going to get fulfilled, so rather than getting hurt better we remain satisfied in all the unexpected success and happiness.

How to Set Higher Expectations for Yourself

1. Believe in others.
2. The more you see potential in others, the more you can realize your own potential.
3. Surround yourself with good people.
4. Give yourself opportunities.
5. I have high expectations of you. Have a great start to your 2015.

I expect myself to:

• Be kind and loving no matter the situation or how I have been treated.
• Treat my body with love and kindness by eating a healthy diet and exercising five times per week.
• Do my job with joy, enthusiasm, and energy.
• Bring the joy every moment of every day. – Be of service in any way possible.

Seven Steps to Setting Clear Expectations

• Make them clear for yourself. It is pretty difficult to build mutually clear expectations with others if you don’t know exactly what they are yourself.
• Know where you need expectations.
• Understand why.
• Meet and discuss.
• Make it mutual.
• Write them down.
• Get agreement and commitment.

Here are nine tips to help ensure that your expectations of others are being met.

1. Clarify your expectations.
2. Link performance to a purpose .
3. Communicate your expectations.
4. Check their understanding.
5. Offer your support.
6. Check-in with them.
7. Provide feedback.
8. Express appreciation.